In 2016, Charlie Carver came out as gay. The actor was aware of his differences from his twin brother Max Carver from an early age, but didn’t come out until his late teens. Later, the Teen Wolf actor claimed that his late father’s sexuality had made it difficult for him to come out.
Charlie Carver’s father’s homosexuality complicated things.
Carver always thought there was something wrong with him and his growing twin brother. He liked wearing cosmetics and playing dress up with his mother’s clothes and accessories, although his brother didn’t. “At a certain age, I started to understand how different he and I are, and I couldn’t really put my finger on it because the language was not yet accessible,” the actor told People in 2018.
When he finally started exploring his sexuality, his parents split up and his father came out as gay. He was just 12 at the time and he realized that his father’s coming out had devastated his mother. Carver tried to recreate himself as a result. He created a false character and tried to appear as manly as possible; he only wore sports shirts and is obsessed with remembering facts. But he couldn’t be overwhelmed by his true self.
After a year of struggle, he came out as gay to his father and brother. It turns out they both knew and supported it.
Then it was time to inform his mother. He didn’t dare tell his mother about his sexuality because she was already suffering from the scar. “The hardest one was my mom because of the pain she went through during the divorce,” he said. “I didn’t want to hurt her again.”
His fears disappeared when his mother told him she already knew and was disappointed he hadn’t told her sooner. Carver initially hated his father for coming out, despite the fact that it was easier than he expected. In an interview with Attitude, he said: “I just wanted to be free to define myself, set my own standards, and I felt like all of a sudden I had someone I was going to be forced to be, and I did. not be like him.”
The actor went on to say that his father’s honesty eventually helped him embrace his own sexuality. “I believe he taught me through the way he lived his life that your sexuality doesn’t define you.” The Desperate Housewives actor noted that his identity was an important part of who he was despite living such a busy life. He thought it was because he suffered from his own “internalized guilt.”
Charlie Carver’s Coming Out Story
Carver came out as gay in January 2016 in a touching essay on his Instagram account. He said that after years of mastering his sexuality, he has been adamant about keeping his personal and professional lives separate. He also said that as a child he knew he wanted to be an actor. Around the same time, he discovered that he was different from the other boys in his class.
“This abstract ‘knowing’ evolved and expressed itself over time through a painful pregnancy defined by emotions of despair and isolation, culminating in a three-word climax of saying aloud, ‘I am gay,'” he admitted. up.
Carver also hoped his story would inspire and encourage other young people who are afraid of their sexual identity.